Like everything else in pregnancy, I researched the heck out of labor & delivery. I quickly learned that there’s the textbook timeline and not a single mother I talked to experienced it.
What did immensely help me was hearing as many labor stories as I could. So here’s my story, everything on the table. If you’re pregnant, I hope this helps your arsenal of knowledge. If you’re male or not pregnant, I hope the details and uncomfortableness raise general awareness about labor so it’s not such a black box enigma in today’s society.
Birthing classes and pregnancy media will have you plan for eventualities like epidurals, episiotomies, cesareans, fentanyl, delayed cord clamping, pitocin, skin-to-skin. In reality, my birth plan boiled down to:
I was admitted for my entire labor. In a regular OB appointment 2 days before my due date, I bled 1/4 cup of blood on the exam room floor when the OB checked my cervix dilation. That, combined with an elevated diastolic blood pressure, prompted her to send me directly to Labor & Delivery.
I had contractions without dilation. By the time I got to the hospital 30 min later, I had regular contractions 3 min apart (that normally doesn’t happen until hours later in Active Labor) but I was only 1.5 cm dilated–my body was ramming a baby’s head through a closed door. I was admitted and spent my entire labor in the hospital.
So they put a balloon in my cervix. 6 hrs later, I hadn’t progressed at all. The OB inserted a water-filled balloon to sit on top of my cervix so that each uterine contraction put more pressure to induce dilation. It’s about as comfortable as it sounds.
My water broke and I got an epidural. 8 hrs of the balloon up my cervix (and boredom of a hospital room), my water broke, and my pain immediately went from a 4 to an 8 out of 10. My diastolic pressure spiking >100, so the OB strongly suggested an epidural to prevent me from seizing or having a stroke. I didn’t take Fentanyl (usually precedes an epidural) or Pitocin (usually proceeds an epidural).
I pushed too hard. 5 hrs after the epidural and 18 hrs after being admitted, I was dilated and ready to push. I pushed twice, and Jeremy’s face was priceless as he proclaimed, “keep going, Melodie, you got 2 inches of head out on that push!” And at the same time, the nurse’s said, “Don’t go so fast! The doctor is in another building finishing up a c-section!”
I watched it all in a wardrobe mirror. When the doctor asked if I wanted a mirror, I thought it’d be a dentist’s mirror, but they wheeled out a free-standing wardrobe mirror. Watching Baby’s birth through was amazing, something I’ll never forget. The doctor coached me to push 100%, short bursts of 50%, 80%, etc. 8 pushes later, under 30min, Ash was born! Yes, I stroked Baby’s head between my legs in between contractions. There’s some opportunities in life you need to seize.
In hindsight, I think the act of checking my cervix in that OB appointment induced my labor; had I just let nature take its course, my labor might have progressed “normally”. It’s like Heisenberg’s Uncertainty Principle at play.
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